It’s no fun when you find yourself in Stuckville, USA. Believe me. What’s more daunting than being relegated to this area? The endless question of “Whhhyyyy???” Here are seven reasons you might be feeling stuck right now, as well as seven solutions to help move you forward.
God (The Universe) Is Speaking
. . .because you’re in His way. Any roadblocks you may experience at this point might be due to the fact that God is trying to communicate something, and you’re too distracted to notice. He may be trying to get you to go in a new direction, learn a lesson, or experience a new adventure. No matter what the message is, you can be sure that it is meant to help you grow. Obedience is key right now. Listen, and don’t deviate from the plan this time.
You Need To Rest
. . .because you’re neglecting your physical, mental, and emotional health. Resting is not just for those who are fiscally well off. Resting is for everyone, and it’s something that you definitely need to do now. Life has a way of sitting us down when we clearly struggle to do so. Take the hint. Slow down. Breathe–and rest. Having a hard time making your space feel like the sanctuary it should be? Click on the “Request a Consultation Link” in the interior design portion of my website and let’s design the peace you deserve!
You’re Loyal To Others
. . .instead of to yourself. This is a big one. Many of us grew up in households where we had to be loyal to the group or one family member while putting our own needs last. Sometimes this was the only way to receive love, attention, safety, and validation. No matter the dynamic, it’s time to stop being loyal to people, beliefs, and even brands that don’t show the same kind of commitment and care to you. It’s the perfect time for creating boundaries, ending relationships, and giving the very beautiful and priceless gift of you and your loyal to yourself.
It’s Time For You To Grow & Change
. . .and you’ve been fighting it because you don’t like change and/or are scared of it. Whatever doesn’t grow, dies. Are you outgrowing your surroundings? Feel like you’re spinning your wheels? Experiencing physical or mental distress or just tired of the same old view? When you refuse to change and grow, life has a way of forcing you to do it anyway. If you’re hesitant about change, imagine the possibilities. Make a list of all the benefits, rewards, and/or positives that could occur because of it. Surrender! More than likely, you will love where you land.
You Need To Take A Closer Look In the Mirror
. . .because you lack introspection. We all have flaws. The difference between a narcissist and a regular person is that regular people can withstand and overcome the negative feelings of shame, guilt, inadequacy, and powerlessness that often accompany an introspective audit. Narcissists and other personality disorders can not. Nevertheless, if some of your personality characteristics have been known to hurt others, start conflict, cause harm to yourself, or have resulted in your being alienated from loved ones, it’s time to look inward. This is called introspection, and refusing to do so will guarantee a life of loneliness, isolation, and depression. These are all things that are within your realm of control.
You Depend Too Much On Others To Meet Your Needs
. . .which usually ends with your being disappointed, depressed, cynical, pessimistic, and heartbroken. You’re more than likely making yourself vulnerable to narcissists and other unsavory characters. Co-dependency is a result of low self-esteem. Creating and cultivating healthy self-esteem, self-worth and self-love are your responsibility. It’s your job, not someone else’s. Yet it is everyone else’s, including that of loved ones to respect it through the boundaries that you set up. When others cannot respect your boundaries, the only thing left to do is terminate their access to you.
You’re Keeping The Wrong People Around You
. . .and they’re purposely sabotaging you by playing victim. They’re making you feel guilty, inadequate, and confused about your thoughts, your goals, and even daily choices. You feel caught in an endless cycle of drama, gossip, and/or like you’re constantly walking on eggshells. Whatever it is, and where ever you are, it’s time to cut ties so that you can move forward on your own terms.
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