Many times, we follow ourselves into believing that every move that we make is in service to healing. In actuality we’re frantically searching for ways to put a Band-Aid on a bullet wound
Fixing
A short term solution to problems that need long term
Healing
A long term solution that produces a resolution that is once and for all.
What’s the Differerence?
Fixing
Usually is perpetuated by a crisis
Triggers a reactive response
Activates overwhelming worry, shame, guilt, and concern of being “found out.”
Initiates fight/flight/freeze response
Costs time, energy, and financial resources to maintain
Never fully executed and needs frequent attending to because you can never really be done with it.
Ego is in the driver’s seat telling you that “no matter what, we must save face.”
Healing
Chooses an insightful response
Causes you to pause, take a step back, and become quiet
triggers lots of deep self-reflection, some of it might be painful
activates self-soothing responses as opposed to lashing out
encourages a willingness to work through the discomfort
results in choices that cause release, relief, exhalations, and resolutions that bring you closer to life goals, self-fulfillment, and overall balance.
Just For Kicks & Giggles
It’s Monday. Try to keep a small tally of the psychological problems that come up for you today. They can be negative self-talk, speaking without discernment, engaging in addictions. Keep a tally of whether or not your decisions fix or heal the problem.
Want more self-reflection?
How To Know When Enough Is Enough – Embrace Life Consulting & Wellness
