Somewhere in this world is a man complaining about how much his wife nags him. It goes on and on and most men just want it to stop. Nevertheless, have you ever noticed that the more your wife nags, the more you procrastinate or simply don’t respond? That’s because the narrative you’ve created about the problem differs from hers. Let’s take a look at some dysfunctional thoughts you might have and find a way to resolve those.
In response to your wife’s qualms, have you ever had these thoughts?
“She’s Blowing It Out of Proportion!”
“She’s Making It Up!”
“It’s Not That Big of A Deal!”
“She Can’t Tell Me What To Do! I’m Not A Little Boy!”
“She’s Just Trying To Control Me!”
“She Thinks She’s So Much Smarter Than Me!”
“She Wishes She Could Be A Man!”
“I’ll Just Show Her!”
The Key To Breaking Through A Dysfunctional Narrative Is . . .
Here’s a cliff note for you. The response you give to your wife is often the same one that was given to you as a child. BOOM! Your whole world just got a whole lot brighter, didn’t it? Men, whenever you came to your mom or your dad about a problem, how did they respond? Instead of fixing the problem, I bet you were given the following responses:
“Stop whining. Shake it off! Deal with it! Forget about it! Get over it! Stop making things up! Be a man!”
This is one form of toxic masculinity in which to vocalize an issue then becomes the issue. Essentially, you’re not supposed to complain about anything. Yet inevitably nothing gets resolved. To add insult to injury, by vocalizing pain, sadness, or even self-doubt, it may have been seen as a sign of weakness. Your masculinity, strength, and competence may have been questioned or ridiculed. You may have been threatened with disownment or punishment until you fixed the problem yourself. Either way, you were unfairly blamed for needing someone else’s help to resolve your own problems. Sound familiar?
It’s no wonder that when your wife calls upon you to fix a problem, she is met with responses that range from silence to rage to infidelity. Nevertheless, no matter how you respond, the original problem is still the problem. Instead of responding negatively, to your wife, try the remedies in part 2 of this informative blog.
Part 2: Live Your Best Life With A Nag Free Wife – Embrace Life Consulting & Wellness (embracelifeconsultingwellnessinc.com)
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